Some must recover from traumatic births.
Our way of being born is not the most respectful, neither for the mother nor for the baby.
Medicalized, instrumentalized deliveries, where the mother is tied, with strong light, in a delivery room where it is cold, unnecessary cesarean sections, obstetric violence that occurs too many times …
All this can make the arrival of our baby into the world not full of peace and harmony but rather stress.
Therefore, the baby will claim to be with his mother as long as possible to recover from the shock.
Western society is the only one that sleeps like this.
You know what? The crib is our invention, and it is a very young invention if we compare it with the age of humanity.
Other societies closer to our physiological needs as human beings do not use cribs; however, in Western Anglo-Saxon societies, they are the only ones where the crib is widespread.
In Europe, we are not Anglo-Saxons, but we are “somewhat imitators,” we imitate many things from their culture, and some of the things that we have imported are not very convenient (such as cribs and nurturing detachment).
Spiked cradle syndrome
IF your child cries, screams, or kicks and wakes up at the precise moment that you move him from your bed to his crib, then you may be seeing what is known as spiked crib syndrome.
What is spiked cradle syndrome?
Although this syndrome sounds strange and problematic, it is not something serious that should alarm us, although it is convenient that as parents we know what it is, since this syndrome is presented by around 50 or 60% of babies at some point in life between birth and 2 years of age.
As mentioned above, this syndrome refers to babies or young children who, at bedtime, do so peacefully in their parents’ bed but who, when they are taken to their crib, wake up and begin to scream and cry.
Despite being highly alarming (especially the first few times), this syndrome does not express that something negative or risky is happening to the baby; the child feels safe being next to the mother, father or the referring adult in charge of her care and, upon feeling this absence, breaks down in tears.
To do? 6 tips to overcome spike cradle syndrome.
Some alternatives will help us to alleviate the effects of this syndrome if your child suffers from it already or has some symptoms of suffering it in the future:
Baby monitor. Using a baby monitor is one of the alternatives that more and more parents are putting into practice since this allows them to fall asleep knowing that if the baby wakes up, they will be present almost immediately.
Establish stable sleep routines for your baby. Around 6 months, children begin to get more sleep at night, although sometimes the sleep is reversed; that is, children who sleep during the day are active at night. One of the keys to preventing your child from having spiked cradle syndrome is to set rest hours for parents and children between 6 and 8 hours (if possible). Preventing your child from taking extremely long naps during the day will help your child sleep better at night. A factor that greatly influences your child to fall asleep in the bath before bedtime. To do this, you must have a bath suitable for the age of your baby. In maternity, you can find many bathtubs and essential products for babies, such as bottles, sterilizers, changing tables, etc.
Put on a sheet that you have used that has your scent on it. Children look (intuitively) for the scent of mothers. For this reason, if you place a pillowcase that you used the night before (or the nights before) between the sheets of his crib, it will allow him to smell your smell, which will prevent him from waking up thinking that "you are not with him."
Always have his favourite stuffed animal on hand. All children from 8 to 9 months have a favourite stuffed animal or toy. If you still don't know what your child's favourite stuffed animal or toy is, look at it carefully, and you will soon know what it is; It is characterized by having soft textures (for this reason, it is generally a stuffed animal, but it can be any other object, even a sheet). This will allow them to rest smoothly since this stuffed animal or toy is a symbol of protection for children. Something important to remember is that the child chooses the stuffed animal or toy that gives protection; Even if it is the adult who places 20 toys around the little one, it will be the child or child (and only they) who will choose their favourite toy. We have to make sure that he has several stuffed animals or toys available so that he can choose which of them will become the favourite of the toys that will accompany him for a good part of his childhood.
When it comes to transferring him to her crib already asleep, do it as slowly as possible. Avoid sudden movements. It can also help to put on some soft music.
Be patient! Like everything else with our children, changes will not be achieved overnight; they require patience and perseverance. That is why we remind you to be calm. At some point, your baby will have overcome the spike cradle syndrome, and it will only be a memory in your children's childhood.